Can I Get a Hell Yes?

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Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you said yes to everything?

Recently I watched the TedTalk ‘My Year of Saying Yes‘ by Shonda Rhimes.

Shonda, an incredibly intelligent woman when you hear all that she has accomplished and created, speaks of how one simple decision changed her life.

She decided to say yes where she previously had not.

I was moved when she talked about how it had transformed her life, and in particular her relationship with her children.Β But I was also baffled, how could something so simple change this woman’s already seemingly amazing life?

ItΒ made me wonder if I could apply this to my life; if I had missed opportunities for happiness because I hadn’t uttered that three letter word?

Because I might have said ‘No‘ or ‘Maybe another time‘ or ‘That’s just not for me‘.

Because I took the easy way out. Because I was busy. Because I was afraid. Because I didn’t want to be seen as different.

I decided to come up with a set of rules, promises if you like that I am going to apply to my life to enhance the yes factor;Β help me focus on my beliefs; be clear on what is important to me and open myself up to new possibilities.

I Nicky, do solemnly swear to…

πŸ’‹ Say yes to embracing authenticity, uniqueness and being your own kind of beautiful.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to being responsible and owning your shit.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to listening to your body, your mind, your soul. Especially your soul.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to growth, expansion, learning.

πŸ’‹ Say yes when you need to. Only when you need to.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to putting yourself first.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to laughter, happiness and feeling fabulous.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to questioning, going against the grain, forging your own path.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to challenges, new experiences, choosing what’s best for you.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to things that make your soul sing, your heart swell and put a smile on your face.

πŸ’‹ Say yes often. Maybe even ‘Hell yes!

No longer will ‘No‘ be the favoured answer. My new three letter friend will lie seductively on the tip of my tongue. It may take some getting used to, but I feel optimistic and excited at the prospect of being someone who regularly says ‘Yes, yes, yes!

So, what might you say yes to?Β 

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Monthly Musings: October

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October has been a quiet old month for me.

Perhaps it’s the shedding of the leaves, the changing of the landscape and the arrival of new colours and cold nights, but I feel slightly nostalgic. Autumn is passing by in a blur of misty mornings and evenings spent snuggling in warm pyjamas.

Maybe this is the calm before the storm (the Christmas storm), or a time to reflect on all that we have experienced this year so far and express thanks and gratitude.

Whether or not you celebrate Thanksgiving and Harvest, how about taking a moment to notice and celebrate the best bits of your world? Here’s mine…


New things this month

🌸 Kristian from Life Lessons Around the Dinner Table and I became pen pals

🌸 I was nominated for This award

🌸 …and this one


Best of #itsthelittlethings

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Flowers in my kitchen
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Music and coffee – 2 of my favourite things
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Early mornings = beautiful sunrises
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Weekend in manchester with my favourite people

My favourite posts

🌸 Why daydreaming is good for you

🌸 ‘It’s The Little Things’ had a little shake up!

🌸 The Worst Parts of My Personality


My favourite thoughts

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Blogs I think you should check out!

Flying Through Water

The Self Actualized Life

Being Lovely You

Fork In The Road

Golden Braid Reiki

Dreaming Inspiration

We Are The Sondering

Ramblings of a Writer

Learning to Live Like WaterΒ 

Necessary Accessories

Sasha’s Writings


Looking forward to next month

🌸 Starting to plan Christmas posts – let me know if you have any ideas for things you’d like to see?

🌸 Autumn fashion shows

🌸 Feeling optimistic about new projects and ideas


I’d like to say thank you to all my readers and I am grateful for all that I am learning on this ‘blogging’ journey!

This month has been my quietest so far since starting back in February. But I still love it! I love connecting with you all. Thanks for being my tribe.

As we head into November, here’s one final thought to leave you with…

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What did you get up to this October? I’d love to know in the comments below or why not follow my Facebook Page and get in touch there?Β 

Nicky πŸ’‹

 

Even though…

 

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Even though I am just me

Even though I feel overwhelmed

Even though I have little time

Even though I’m wondering, bumbling, finding my way

Even though the fear of failure is waiting for me

Even though they say it’s been done, over and over

I’m keeping on

I’m inhabiting the quiet me shaped space that beckons,

“Come, come, come”

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I want, I want, I want!

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Have you ever heard those frustrated cries of a toddler desperate for some gift that their parents are refusing to buy?

Well I did recently and it got me thinking…of all the things that I want!

New shoes, a new winter coat, to paint my bedroom, that necklace I saw yesterday, some plants for the garden, the dog needs a haircut, a holiday would be nice, Christmas is coming…

The list could go on!

Afterwards, I felt so embarrassed at just how costly my wants were, of how superficial they are and how quickly I could just keep adding to them. I doubt the list would ever cease; I could keep adding to it forever.

So I decided I’d write a list of wants that cost nothing.

To see what it is that I value most – the things I want for myself and others to improve my life. I was reminded of the quote by Anthony J D’Angelo,

The most important things in life aren’t things.

I want to:

~ always smile when I see a rainbow ~ feel loved every day ~ spend time making others smile ~ see my children grow into happy, confident adults ~ find time to do the things I love ~ have time alone with hubby ~ laugh lots ~ be fun to be around ~ feel grateful for what I have ~ take pleasure in the little things ~ have integrity ~ be me.

Now that’s a list I am proud of!

And it was a lesson in gratitude.

⭐️ It shares what’s important to me and what makes me soul sing.

⭐️ It shows that I value myself and take the time to do the things I love.

⭐️ It says that money cannot buy happiness.

What is it you want most?

Write a list of wants that doesn’t include possessions and cannot be bought with money and see what your heart truly wants.

 

Misery loves Company

 

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It sat in the corner, lurking in the darkness, following me wherever I went.

It was like a grey cloud that wouldn’t blow away; a heavy load that I just couldn’t shake off; an unwanted visitor.

I’m talking about misery.

You know those days when you feel down in the dumps, cant be bothered, can’t get your shit together nor decide what to do next – shall I scream, shout, cry or just go to bed?

Well that was me.

I felt overwhelmed by all I had to do, both at home and at work. I felt unmotivated and had little energy. I felt worried as I was having trouble organising myself. I was overreacting to the slightest thing and I was pretty sure I was coming down with something.

To be completely honest, I was getting on my own last nerve.

And everywhere I went I was surrounded by miserable, moaning people. People who were dealing with stuff, people who were having a hard time, negative people and people who were unhappy.

I’m not sure I actually was – but it felt like it.

The mind is everything. What you think you become.

Buddha

I’ve written before about what to do when things aren’t going your way and how I have to work hard to maintain balance, simplify my life and keep my intention of ease & flow.

But I know that your brain looks for evidence for what you believe to be true.

I was miserable, hence I noticed all the misery and miserable people around me.

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I needed to change my miserable thoughts.

I needed to be proactive in ways toΒ introduce a little more positivity into my day.

Simple, but not so easy.

When you don’t know what to do, just believing you are doing something, anything, can have an effect.

⭐️ By taking one day at a time.

⭐️ By doing the next right thing.

⭐️ By completing one task at a time.

⭐️ By looking at the moment, not the whole day.

⭐️ By believing this too will pass.

None of us have it all figured out, all of the time. You will have periods of low energy, full agendas and difficult situations. It’s in these times, you need to cling to what you know.

I know that I am loved ~ that I have survived every day so far ~ that emotions have to be experienced ~ that I can only do what I can ~ this too will pass ~ that there is something to learn in every experience ~ that happiness is a choice ~ you never stop learning ~ not to take life too seriously ~ your mind will reinforce your beliefs ~ change starts with you ~ self care is so important ~ the sun will shine.

Thankfully, after a couple of quiet days spent in bed at home, some antibiotics and a LOT of listening to what my body is saying, I feel a lot more like myself again.

Lesson learned.

Listen to your body. Keep your thoughts and your company in check.

What company are you keeping?