Misery loves Company



It sat in the corner, lurking in the darkness, following me wherever I went.

It was like a grey cloud that wouldn’t blow away; a heavy load that I just couldn’t shake off; an unwanted visitor.

I’m talking about misery.

You know those days when you feel down in the dumps, cant be bothered, can’t get your shit together nor decide what to do next – shall I scream, shout, cry or just go to bed?

Well that was me.

I felt overwhelmed by all I had to do, both at home and at work. I felt unmotivated and had little energy. I felt worried as I was having trouble organising myself. I was overreacting to the slightest thing and I was pretty sure I was coming down with something.

To be completely honest, I was getting on my own last nerve.

And everywhere I went I was surrounded by miserable, moaning people. People who were dealing with stuff, people who were having a hard time, negative people and people who were unhappy.

I’m not sure I actually was – but it felt like it.

The mind is everything. What you think you become.


I’ve written before about what to do when things aren’t going your way and how I have to work hard to maintain balance, simplify my life and keep my intention of ease & flow.

But I know that your brain looks for evidence for what you believe to be true.

I was miserable, hence I noticed all the misery and miserable people around me.


I needed to change my miserable thoughts.

I needed to be proactive in ways to introduce a little more positivity into my day.

Simple, but not so easy.

When you don’t know what to do, just believing you are doing something, anything, can have an effect.

⭐️ By taking one day at a time.

⭐️ By doing the next right thing.

⭐️ By completing one task at a time.

⭐️ By looking at the moment, not the whole day.

⭐️ By believing this too will pass.

None of us have it all figured out, all of the time. You will have periods of low energy, full agendas and difficult situations. It’s in these times, you need to cling to what you know.

I know that I am loved ~ that I have survived every day so far ~ that emotions have to be experienced ~ that I can only do what I can ~ this too will pass ~ that there is something to learn in every experience ~ that happiness is a choice ~ you never stop learning ~ not to take life too seriously ~ your mind will reinforce your beliefs ~ change starts with you ~ self care is so important ~ the sun will shine.

Thankfully, after a couple of quiet days spent in bed at home, some antibiotics and a LOT of listening to what my body is saying, I feel a lot more like myself again.

Lesson learned.

Listen to your body. Keep your thoughts and your company in check.

What company are you keeping?



19 thoughts on “Misery loves Company

  1. Wow! So you find the right post on my blog…I visit your blog and this post grabs me…I’m having a rough day and your post speaks loudly to me. This is just what I needed! I’m headed in to Starbucks for a refreshing drink and to reboot! 😉👑Thanks!!!


  2. Very good tips Nicky! And I agree. If happy people are infectous, miserable people are also the same. That is why it’s important to choose our company. And self-analysis always does us good. We should listen to our body language. If something do not feel good, something is definitely not right and we need to identify and do something about it right away! ☺


  3. Great post and good tips. Glad you’re feeling better and more like yourself! We all have these days, it’s just a matter of getting through them, and knowing and understanding that things will change.


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