What inspires you to continue to write, when it’s all been said before?

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Someone asked me this question recently, and it made me wonder.

Wonder where my inspiration comes from?

Wonder if I will eventually run out of ideas?

Wonder if my readers truly like what I write?

Wonder if my readers would stick around if I ever decided to write about something new?

Wonder why am I still writing when some days it’s hard to juggle a blog with a full time job?

After a moment of wondering, I realised a couple of things…

The thing is, it has all been written before – but not in my style, in my voice, my way.ย 

I find inspiration to write in what I see, what I encounter and how I feel about these experiences.

I am inspired by many, many things…

๐Ÿ’› a beautiful dress ๐Ÿ’›ย a rainbow ๐Ÿ’›ย an evening cuddling on the sofa ๐Ÿ’› a story ๐Ÿ’›ย a beautiful picture ๐Ÿ’›ย a walk ๐Ÿ’›ย a conversation ๐Ÿ’›ย laughter ๐Ÿ’›ย a kind gesture ๐Ÿ’› smiles ๐Ÿ’›ย beautifully wrapped gifts ๐Ÿ’›ย someone else’s blog ๐Ÿ’› a quote ๐Ÿ’› a thought provoking article ๐Ÿ’›ย meditation ๐Ÿ’› reflection time ๐Ÿ’›ย exercise ๐Ÿ’›ย my children ๐Ÿ’›ย the children I work with ๐Ÿ’›ย people who get up every morning and face the world ๐Ÿ’› kindness ๐Ÿ’›

The thing is, I enjoy writing and need to find ways to continually be inspired.

Pause

Take stock. Relish the moment.

Consume the beauty.

Let it sink and settle deep in your soul.

Find inspiration in all things.

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Better still – how about you be the inspiration?

Live your life, your way.

Show up, tell your story.

Be present. Be aware. Be there.

What inspires you to write? Why do you write? How do you choose what you write about?

Let me know below

xo

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Can I Get a Hell Yes?

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Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you said yes to everything?

Recently I watched the TedTalk ‘My Year of Saying Yes‘ by Shonda Rhimes.

Shonda, an incredibly intelligent woman when you hear all that she has accomplished and created, speaks of how one simple decision changed her life.

She decided to say yes where she previously had not.

I was moved when she talked about how it had transformed her life, and in particular her relationship with her children.ย But I was also baffled, how could something so simple change this woman’s already seemingly amazing life?

Itย made me wonder if I could apply this to my life; if I had missed opportunities for happiness because I hadn’t uttered that three letter word?

Because I might have said ‘No‘ or ‘Maybe another time‘ or ‘That’s just not for me‘.

Because I took the easy way out. Because I was busy. Because I was afraid. Because I didn’t want to be seen as different.

I decided to come up with a set of rules, promises if you like that I am going to apply to my life to enhance the yes factor;ย help me focus on my beliefs; be clear on what is important to me and open myself up to new possibilities.

I Nicky, do solemnly swear to…

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to embracing authenticity, uniqueness and being your own kind of beautiful.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to being responsible and owning your shit.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to listening to your body, your mind, your soul. Especially your soul.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to growth, expansion, learning.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes when you need to. Only when you need to.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to putting yourself first.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to laughter, happiness and feeling fabulous.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to questioning, going against the grain, forging your own path.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to challenges, new experiences, choosing what’s best for you.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes to things that make your soul sing, your heart swell and put a smile on your face.

๐Ÿ’‹ Say yes often. Maybe even ‘Hell yes!

No longer will ‘No‘ be the favoured answer. My new three letter friend will lie seductively on the tip of my tongue. It may take some getting used to, but I feel optimistic and excited at the prospect of being someone who regularly says ‘Yes, yes, yes!

So, what might you say yes to?ย 

How Guilty Are You?

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guilt ~ย the fact or state of having done wrong or committed an offence;ย remorse or self-reproach caused by feeling that one is responsible for a wrong or offence;ย sin or crime

There are things that I do.

Unintentionally or deliberately to make my life easier, happier, less monotonous, simpler, more exciting or maybe just because I want to.

Things like…

๐Ÿ’‹ snuggling on the sofa with my pets ๐Ÿ’‹ eating dessert before dinner ๐Ÿ’‹ watching back to back episodes of my favourite series ๐Ÿ’‹ buying expensive underwear that I save for special occasions ๐Ÿ’‹ walking on the grass next to the ‘Do Not Walk On The Grass’ sign ย ๐Ÿ’‹ only ironing when I am literally down to my last tshirt ๐Ÿ’‹ starting a new book before I’ve finished the current one ๐Ÿ’‹ buying a lipstick in exactly the same shade as one I already own ๐Ÿ’‹ being seduced by a pretty cocktail ๐Ÿ’‹ going to bed at 8pm ๐Ÿ’‹ having recipe books on my shelf that I’ve NEVER cooked from ๐Ÿ’‹ hiding the last cookie so I can eat it later ๐Ÿ’‹ making excuses to not go out ๐Ÿ’‹ only doing half a workout ๐Ÿ’‹

Inevitably, there are times after the event when Iย feel guilty.

Guilty.

As in, I committed a crime or offence and feel remorseful. Not quite?

Guilty.

Of putting my needs first and listening to what my body needs. Is that so awful?

Guilty.

It sounds so negative. So final. So wrong.

So why do we feel guilty?

Probably because we think of the million things we could, should or are supposed to be doing.

Maybe because we’re constantly reminded of how time is money and how every day is a giftย and feel the pressure of making every minute count?

Perhaps it’s because we rarely see others self indulging in a little bit of what they fancy?

But what if every now and then we made our lives a little easier, had some fun, let ourselves off the hook, went with the flow?

As long as no one got angry, hurt or arrested.

I also doubt the earth would stop spinning.

What if we gave ourselves some TLC and smiled? What if we indulged in our passions and set our souls alight? What if you did somethingย a little out of the ordinary and and felt envigorated? What if you did something silly and laughed like a child?

Guilt free.

What would that look like?

I wonder.

 

It’s complicated…

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We all dread the ‘C’ word!

Is your life calm and quiet; with everything working in harmony? Do you have the time to talk to others, get all your jobs done and still have time to do something nice for yourself?

Right now you’re probably wondering if this is a fairy tale?

Most of us, at one time or another have taken our eyes off the ball, lost focus on our priorities or simply let our lives run us, instead of taking control.

We unintentionally allow our lives to become full of stuff we feel we have to do rather than stuff we choose to do.

You know how it is; busy at work, demands from home, a never ending to-do list, going from one job to the next, multitasking, people to see, bills to pay.

You know the feeling of the circus act who’s keeping all the plates spinning?

With little time to devote to yourself to recharge and the demands piling up, eventually it becomes difficult to keep all the plates spinning at one time and they will inevitably come crashing down.

And life becomes full of ‘C’ words: Crazy. CHAOTIC. C O M P L I C A T E D!

Your mind, body and soul can only take so much.

Something has to change.

It is so important to take time for yourself but how many of us place self care way down on the to-do list?

Let’s start by simplifying a few areas of your life.

Your health.

Ensuring you are getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, eating foods that nourish your body and regular exercise is the starting point to being in optimum health. It doesn’t have to be complicated – a short walk every evening, a chicken salad every lunchtime prepared the evening before, a beautiful new water bottle to remind you to drink plenty.

Good habits and regular routines make our lives easier because we won’t waste valuable headspace making decisions.ย This will enable you to cope better when things inevitably get crazy!

Learn how to say no.

Obviously I’m talking about where you can…but think about it, do you really have to do everything, every day, all of the time?

Allow yourself regular breaks from the daily grind. Do you want to sit in the staff room with all the gossips at lunch time or would you benefit from a walk and time away from your desk? Do you need to hang out with that group of friends who bring you down or talk about work all night? Or would your time be better spent doing something creative or simply not thinking about work outside of work hours?

De-clutter.

Your home. Your wardrobe. Your work space. Your mind.

Having less stuff makes it easier to keep tidy, encourages gratitude and helps you focus on what’s important in your life. Try creating a capsule wardrobe this Autumn or how about challenging yourself to give one item away every time you buy a new item? Clear your desk every evening, writing a to-do list before you leave so you know you are ready for tomorrow and you can leave work, at work.ย Allow yourself time to sit quietly and assess what’s going on in your mind. It may help you become an expert on you and what you need in your life.

Creating space – actual and metaphorical can help you think clearer, make better decisions and feel calmer.

Can you create pockets of time just for you?

Whether it’s time to read, go for a walk, bake, do something creative or simply a long hot bath listening to your favourite tunes.

Do something just for you.

This way of thinking tells your body and others around you that you are important. That you value time alone to recharge your energy and spend time doing things you love.

Do one thing every day that makes your soul sing.

You have to keep an eye on your life, or it will become complicated, busy and cluttered. There will always be one more thing to do.

Plan time out just for yourself – it’s the only way it will happen.

Work hard at simplifying your life.

Think of one thing you can do today to make your life a tiny bit less complicated.

The Worst Parts of My Personality

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That’s Marilyn Monroe telling it like it is.

Truthfully. Unedited. Authentic.

She was being honest about her faults, her flaws and her failings.

She was confessing to the world who she really was.

Whether you liked it or not.

What if we took this quote as a model for what we want to say to the world?

What if we showed our weaknesses, celebrated our quirks, embraced the sides of us that are less than perfect and shared the worst parts of our personalities?

And what if we were okay with it?

I wonder what your quote would look like?

Mine goes something like this:

I’m impatient, irritable and a little bit of a perfectionist. I make extra work for myself, I am always chasing the excitement and at times forget to just breathe. But if you can’t accept me as I am, then that says more about you than it does me.

It feels quite cathartic to spew my insecurities on the page and share some of the worst bits about myself with you.

I’m okay with you knowing this about me.

I know I’m not perfect.

I know I’m not alone.

I know this is who I am.

Give it a go! Fill in the blanks to create your very own manifesto of misbehaviours:

I’m……, …… and a little…… I make……, I am……. and at times…… But if you can’t…….. then……..

Own the very worst parts of your personality. They are as important as your finest traits.

They are all you.