It’s okay to be you

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We live in a world where we are bombarded with ideals and suggestions for what to think, do, choose, how to act, where to eat, what to wear…

Social media is our basis for comparison. The ubiquitous presence of peer pressure has been experienced by all at some point. And we question ourselves relentlessly.

Are we good enough? Doing enough? Have enough?

Well, I’m here to tell you that you are enough.

A perfectly unique individual.

Exclusive. Exceptional. Extraordinary.

It’s okay to be you.

💋 to find pleasure in the things you do

💋 to want different things than the crowd

💋 to make choices based on your experiences

💋 to have your own set of preferences and values

💋 to dream your dreams and plan your future

💋 to know what you need and provide it for yourself

💋 to dance to the beat of your own drum

So evolve, grow, become, explore, try, find, do, desire, dream, be.

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The world needs you. The real you.

💋 xo

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How do you measure success?

 

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Perception is everything.

How you see yourself and your successes can elevate you or bring you down.

You may feel success means you have to have many things…big house, new car, money in the bank?

However, I believe that success is a unique quality that can only be defined by you, for you based on what is important to you – not what others tell you it should be.

⭐ Love to travel? It could be you see success as earning enough money to visit a new city or country twice a year.

⭐ Striving for happiness? Success could be working at the job of your dreams – whatever the pay!

⭐ Are relationships the thing that keep you going? I wonder if success is hanging out with friends once a week, meeting new people or going to new places?

⭐ Is rest and relaxation important? Success could be ending a busy day in the place you call home with warm food and a few good books.

You get the idea…

Measure your life against your definition to see how successful you truly are…not by comparing it to someone else’s.

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Notice your achievements, the things you excel at. The tasks you do really well. The little things that bring you joy.

If you change your perception – there will be many.

That is success.

💋 xoxo

Quote courtesy of lifehacker.com

A letter to The Universe for 2017

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Dear 2017,

I am ready.

Ready for whatever you decide to throw at me, gift me, allow me to experience.

The good. The bad. The downright ugly.

I am releasing control, going with the flow, allowing life to unfold as The Universe wishes it to.

I am going to take note of the signs, look for the opportunities and trust that my intuition will lead me along the best possible path.

I will stop focusing on the end product and instead enjoy the journey that unfolds before me.

I will choose how I am going to feel and ensure my day is full of experiences that allow me to feel this way.

I will believe I am in control. No victim mentality to be seen here.

I will master my words – both what I say and think to myself deep within and the things that roll off my tongue when I speak to or about others.

I will have some fun along the way, take chances, laugh often – particularly at myself and not take things to heart.

I will see my feelings as a strength, my compassion as a gift and my vibes as a compass pointing out what I need more of.

I will love wholeheartedly, unconditionally and passionately. My family, my friends, my life.

I will protect my boundaries, enhance my authenticity and nourish my soul. All on a daily basis.

I will say no when I need to, stay strong in the face of adversity and never, ever give away my power.

I am ready to live 2017. I am ready to be a badass, a babe and unstoppable.

Are you?

xo

 

Why I Don’t Need a Bucket List

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI recently tried to write a bucket list. I was unsuccessful.

I’d just read this short, but thought evoking post from Basically Classy entitled before I die.

And felt inspired to think of all the things I’d like to achieve before I kick the bucket.

But try as I might, I couldn’t do it.

And not for the first time I might add.

The internet is full of Things to do before I’m 30/I die/I settle down*…*delete as necessary! However, I have always found this tough to do for some reason.

I found focusing on all the things I have yet to experience quite heartbreaking. Not that I don’t think we should have dreams and set goals – I absolutely do.

But I think that we live in a world of comparison, where it’s totally acceptable to only post the perfect parts of our lives on social media, where people are not content with what they have and a ‘dog eat dog’ mentality has us all working our asses off.

And at times, some of us can feel a little disheartened, as if we don’t meet the standard, insecure or maybe just a little sad.

Bucket lists are in theory a list of wishes, things you dream of doing before you kick the bucket. People make them so their life will have purpose and is full of once in a lifetime experiences.

However, and this is my issue with them…they’re too big!

And I don’t mean they are long – I mean they are full of tasks and experiences that are grandiose, extravagant and ‘once in a lifetime‘.

We don’t all have the health, time or resources to climb mountains, live abroad for a year or maybe even go skydiving. Some of us have commitments, restrictions and maybe even a lack of desire to go on a pilgrimage, be enlightened or change our lives.

And I’m here to tell you, that’s okay.There’s nothing wrong with that.

Nor is it wrong if you do crave, strive and yearn for excitement and experiences that are wild, wonderful and life affirming.

I believe we all have one thing in common.

The desire to have experiences that are memorable.

Whether they are new or familiar, exciting or comfortable. We all desire to create long lasting memories, feel special, connect with others and enjoy life even if it’s right in our own back yards.

So, instead of writing an enormously extravagant list of specifics – how about you create a list of subheadings that loosely define what you want to experience, feel, see or do?

For example – you want to visit new places, but can’t travel abroad right now for whatever reason. How about you make a list of places nearby or easily accessible with a little planning that you could visit? They might be a little closer to home, smaller and more achievable.

That local restaurant you’ve never gotten round to eating at, a walk in the park on your own, a day at the zoo, breakfast in a cafe or coffee shop you’ve never been in before, jump on a train and ride to the last stop – the possibilities are endless.

Okay, it’s not the same as going to a new country or visiting the seven wonders of the world…but maybe you’ll still get to experience the joy of exploring a new area. Maybe you will be inspired to go out regularly and do new things? Maybe you find a new hobby, new friends or simply get a thrill from stepping out of your comfort zone?

I’m not saying don’t do something that’s grand and once in a life time – but what I’m saying is do it because you want to or the opportunity arises – not because you simply want to cross it off your bucket list! Sometimes the most amazing experiences we have, where everything comes together: company, atmosphere, laughter, love – cannot be planned. They just happen.

Here’s another idea – how would you feel about creating a list of things you have done rather than a list of things you wish you could do.

Maybe creating this list will help you live a life of gratitude, become aware of all you have and encourage you to notice the little things in your every day that make you smile.

So here’s my list. It’s not particularly long nor is it particularly astounding – but honestly, I don’t really want for much.

I would like to experience beautiful places – that includes restaurants, hotels and beautiful spaces in nature.

I would like to stay young at heart, have fun and be spontaneous – laugh a lot, not take life too seriously and live a life where I say yes more often!

I would like to have fabulously  authentic relationships – that includes meaningful conversations, friends that lift me up, people I can look up to and learn from, spend time making memories.

I would like to be excited by life – jump out of bed in the morning, feel inspired to try new things, meet new people and stay open to opportunities that come my way.

I would like to become freer, financially secure and work less – less routine, more me time and space to be creative.

I would like to live a life of gratitude and happiness – surrounded by my family and friends, be thankful for what I have, smile lots.

As long as I stay true to what I desire in my life, I believe I will live an authentic, fulfilling life. This list isn’t exhaustable – but these are the things that are important to me regardless of whether they are costly, simple, once in a lifetime or everyday.

I don’t need a bucket list – my dreams and goals are ever changeable. They are presented in opportunities that come my way, the people I meet and the little things I do regularly.

Let me know below, how do you feel about bucket lists?

Feeling Thankful

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Regardless of whether you celebrate Thanksgiving or not, we all have room in our lives for a little gratitude.

Saying thanks for what you have helps you hunt for the positives, focus your mind on the present moment, aids contentment.

Start small and see how quickly you can change your frame of mind. Think of 3 things you are grateful for or glad you experienced today before you fall asleep.

Give a whispered thankyou for the potential of a brand new day right before you get up in the morning.

The more you look for, the more you will find.

Here’s my list of 10 things I am grateful for today…

⭐️ Warm doggy noses in my ear

⭐️ A hubby who makes me a cup of tea when I come home after a long day

⭐️ Facebook videos and jokes that make me laugh

⭐️ Kids that ask “How was your day?”

⭐️ My happy household

⭐️ Loved ones

⭐️ My journey so far

⭐️ My love of books

⭐️ The little things that make me smile

⭐️ The weekend lie-ins

Moaning is easy. Whining is an everyday affair. Negativity permeates every corner of our day.

True strength lies in believing in better; compassion over conflict; sprinkling positivity over all you come into contact with and smiling from the depths of your soul.

Be grateful for this precious moment.

What’s got you feeling all thankful this weekend? Let me know below.

xo