I am not apologising!

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Were the words I heard recently, fiercely announced from behind a display of breakfast cereal.

A harassed looking woman was clearly trying to be ‘Super Nanny’ in the middle of a busy supermarket on a wet Saturday afternoon…unsuccessfully I might add. I gave her one of those sympathetic ‘we’ve all been there’ smiles of encouragement as I passed by.

There are times when I wish I could be that child, stamp my feet, hold my ground and not apologise for something I did or didn’t do.

How many times has someone bumped into you and you apologised, even though it wasn’t your fault?

How often do you fail to meet deadlines and apologise, even though the target was unrealistic in the first place?

How frequently have you felt taken advantage of, and apologised for your less than stellar performance, when you really didn’t want to do it in the first place?

I wonder how many of us fail to speak up when something clearly is amiss?

How many of us feel guilty for loving something even though it may be seen as not age appropriate, lady-like or not what everyone else is doing?

How many of us do things because we feel we should?

I’m guessing quite a few of us.

We receive pressure from many areas of our lives. The stresses and strains clear on many of our faces.

These pressures can leave us feeling guilty for choosing to spend time doing what we enjoy, acting a certain way or wanting things to be different.

“Let’s be proud of the quirky, sometimes inappropriate little things we do that excite us, make us smile and just make the day a whole lot easier to get through!”

I am not apologising for wearing red lipstick every day 💋 frowning when people forget their manners 💋 listening to heavy metal 💋 saying no when I need to 💋 going to bed before 9 o’clock 💋 lighting candles for no reason 💋 drinking too much coffee 💋 asking for clarity when I don’t understand the question 💋 not being able to drive 💋 nor speak a second language 💋 needing a hug every day 💋 thinking motorbikes are sexy 💋 buying heels I can’t walk in 💋 reading teenage fiction 💋 ignoring the telephone 💋 buying handbags I will never use 💋 not ironing…the list could go on and on.

This is who I am right now.

These are the things that make me, me and I’m going to continue to do them for as long as necessary.

Let’s all take a minute to release our inner four year old (tantrum optional) and share some of the little day to day things we feel passionately enough about that we’re not going to stop doing for anyone.

In your journey of self discovery, what are you not apologising for?

Nicky xo



2 thoughts on “I am not apologising!

    1. I remember someone saying this to me once and it upset me. We all parent differently, have our strengths and weaknesses and do what we can. At the end of the day – it’s you that will figure it out when and if, it becomes a problem. Enjoy these times – they’re not little forever 🙂


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