Can I Get a Hell Yes?


Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you said yes to everything?

Recently I watched the TedTalk ‘My Year of Saying Yes‘ by Shonda Rhimes.

Shonda, an incredibly intelligent woman when you hear all that she has accomplished and created, speaks of how one simple decision changed her life.

She decided to say yes where she previously had not.

I was moved when she talked about how it had transformed her life, and in particular her relationship with her children.Β But I was also baffled, how could something so simple change this woman’s already seemingly amazing life?

ItΒ made me wonder if I could apply this to my life; if I had missed opportunities for happiness because I hadn’t uttered that three letter word?

Because I might have said ‘No‘ or ‘Maybe another time‘ or ‘That’s just not for me‘.

Because I took the easy way out. Because I was busy. Because I was afraid. Because I didn’t want to be seen as different.

I decided to come up with a set of rules, promises if you like that I am going to apply to my life to enhance the yes factor;Β help me focus on my beliefs; be clear on what is important to me and open myself up to new possibilities.

I Nicky, do solemnly swear to…

πŸ’‹ Say yes to embracing authenticity, uniqueness and being your own kind of beautiful.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to being responsible and owning your shit.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to listening to your body, your mind, your soul. Especially your soul.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to growth, expansion, learning.

πŸ’‹ Say yes when you need to. Only when you need to.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to putting yourself first.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to laughter, happiness and feeling fabulous.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to questioning, going against the grain, forging your own path.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to challenges, new experiences, choosing what’s best for you.

πŸ’‹ Say yes to things that make your soul sing, your heart swell and put a smile on your face.

πŸ’‹ Say yes often. Maybe even ‘Hell yes!

No longer will ‘No‘ be the favoured answer. My new three letter friend will lie seductively on the tip of my tongue. It may take some getting used to, but I feel optimistic and excited at the prospect of being someone who regularly says ‘Yes, yes, yes!

So, what might you say yes to?Β 


Even though…



Even though I am just me

Even though I feel overwhelmed

Even though I have little time

Even though I’m wondering, bumbling, finding my way

Even though the fear of failure is waiting for me

Even though they say it’s been done, over and over

I’m keeping on

I’m inhabiting the quiet me shaped space that beckons,

“Come, come, come”


The Real Neat Blog Award


Thank you to Francis and Anna fromΒ francisandanna.comΒ for nominating me for such a great award.

If you haven’t checked out their blog – head over there for a glimpse into their adventures to beautiful places.

So, the rules are:

Thank and link the blogger who nominated you.
Answer the questions asked.
Nominate 7 more bloggers for the awardΒ (it’s nice to advise them independently)
Create seven questions for your Nominees.

Things you need to know about me:

What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?

I drink a glass of water and set my intentions for the day. I believe the best way to start your day is with positivity and calmness.

If there is one place you wanted to visit, where would it be?

I would love to visit America. All of it.

What is that one word that your friends describe you as?

I think my friends would describe me as kind.

What has been your biggest challenge?

Becoming ‘me’ again after the death of my younger brother.

What does your perfect day look like?

I love this question! It would have to include afternoon tea, shopping, a cocktail, a nice hotel and my family!

If you were to create a piece of art, what would the subject be?

Love – because it’s all encompassing.

What motivates you?

I feel most motivated when I am excited about what I’m doing. I can literally lose hours when I am writing – the time use flies by!

Things I need to know about you:

Name one person who has helped you become the person you are today.

How did you decide on the name of your blog?

How would you describe your style?

What is your favourite dessert?

How do you like to relax?

Describe yourself in 3 words.

Who was the last person you said ‘Thank you’ to and why?

I am nominating my newest finds:

Funhouse Vision

Michaela Schell

That Girl Called C

Scintillating Memoirs

Up and Down the Rabbit Hole

A Mile in my Shoes

It Rains in my Heart

Thanks again to Francis and Anna for nominating me for this award,

I wish you all a great day!

Nicky πŸ’‹


The Worst Parts of My Personality


That’s Marilyn Monroe telling it like it is.

Truthfully. Unedited. Authentic.

She was being honest about her faults, her flaws and her failings.

She was confessing to the world who she really was.

Whether you liked it or not.

What if we took this quote as a model for what we want to say to the world?

What if we showed our weaknesses, celebrated our quirks, embraced the sides of us that are less than perfect and shared the worst parts of our personalities?

And what if we were okay with it?

I wonder what your quote would look like?

Mine goes something like this:

I’m impatient, irritable and a little bit of a perfectionist. I make extra work for myself, I am always chasing the excitement and at times forget to just breathe. But if you can’t accept me as I am, then that says more about you than it does me.

It feels quite cathartic to spew my insecurities on the page and share some of the worst bits about myself with you.

I’m okay with you knowing this about me.

I know I’m not perfect.

I know I’m not alone.

I know this is who I am.

Give it a go! Fill in the blanks to create your very own manifesto of misbehaviours:

I’m……, …… and a little…… I make……, I am……. and at times…… But if you can’t…….. then……..

Own the very worst parts of your personality. They are as important as your finest traits.

They are all you.

Why Daydreaming is Good For You


Do you ever stare unseeing out of the window, whilst dreaming of another life; another time; another place?

I always feel they are like little pauses for your mind.

A delightful daydream just for a few precious seconds, might just be your mind curiously contemplating for something to be different.

You should take note.

Where does your mind go? What do you dream of?

It’s like a little nudge from your soul.

Something needs your attention, needs rebalancing, needs a little love.

So, next time you catch yourself staring into space; don’t berate yourself. Instead thank your psyche – it’s communicating.

The question is…are you listening?